After nearly 33 years of marriage and a couple of children--almost grown, but not quite--I ask myself this question every year when December rolls around. The answer is usually a big 'yes' and then it dawns on me that I've let this happen to myself. No one is imposing demands that I must have everything done immediately or that some of the things I've always done must be done at all! When I seriously consider the traditions that I follow each Christmas, I realize that it's not a life-or-death requirement that I do exactly what I have always done!
If you find this year that you are feeling overwhelmed, take a minute to reflect on what's most important to you--and start with those things. Scale back your decorating, baking and shopping. Make choices that are meaningful rather than self-imposed 'have-to's'. If you want to do more, fine. But just remember, no one but you can put extra demands on how perfect everything needs to be. The fact that we have family and friends is reason enough to celebrate and become motivated to carry out some of the holiday traditions. Anything more is icing on the cake, but remember, it's not an absolute requirement to do it all.
So take a breather and set some boundaries now. Make up your mind now to view things with a less-perfectionistic attitude. In my experience there is no person currently on earth who shows real perfection so no matter how hard you work you will never reach it. Slow down now and enjoy each day for what it offers. The season will be over before we know it and we will risk the chance of overlooking the small gifts that abound each day, gifts that may be the most important of all. Like the touch of a child's hand, a soft kiss on the cheek, a falling leaf, a frost-covered rose. Life moves so quickly. Please take time, every day, to appreciate the blessings in your life.
Today I am thankful for the realization that if I skip a few self-imposed 'musts' on my to-do list, the holiday season might take on a less-rushed feeling and I might experience, more fully, the joy and true meaning of this Christmas.
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